Fitness Pro: Week 2 of Back In Shape

Back on the wagon again ... sigh

Sometimes we face adversity and shine and sometimes we face adversity and wobble.  For me, this past week I think I managed to shine for others but wobble for myself. A couple of really big things happened; a client died on Monday, sudden, unexpected, and took everyone by surprise.  The instructors that she worked with were reeling, my studio manager was reeling, and I was blown back pretty hard too.  She had been with us for years, I trained her while I was pregnant and my son is nine now.  That's how long she's been with us. I was talking to a lot of people, keeping tabs on my staff and making sure everyone was okay.  But we weren't okay, we were all grieving, but we were trying.  I feel like the Mama Hen with my staff and it broke my heart to watch them struggle. So I didn't really work out much. Then, after a couple of days, things seemed a little better.  I had been doing a lot of walking even though I wasn't "working out" and felt okay, all things considered.  But then my software program for the studio, the one I've been using for years and years, stopped working.  The company was being cyber-attacked and things slowed to a crawl.  We couldn't take credit cards; I literally couldn't accept money for services for my studio.   As I write this, everything is back to normal and we should be able to accept payments again, but I was scrambling to put a secondary payment plan in place so that I could continue to run my business.  These cyber-hackers have left hundreds of studio owners scrambling to keep our businesses afloat and there was a lot of commiseration on Facebook as we reached out to each other to find solutions. And money issues really stress me out and I eat. Kindness from Strangers and My Family The Pilates studio owners reaching out to each other was pretty amazing.  We cracked jokes, swapped ideas, griped and knew we had sympathetic eyes reading our comments.  It helped a lot.  My husband suggested as a credit card service and I checked into them and they will work well as a back-up system. On Saturday, my son asked if we could all go running.  We did a quick two mile loop around a local reservoir and all felt a lot better.  Sunday, Father's Day, my husband wanted to go kayaking and we did a spirited (that means windy!) route along the Esplanade in Boston, gliding between sail boats and power boats and enjoying the quiet of the lagoon near the Hatch Shell.  It was pretty awesome. The Results I am actually back to my starting weight with 3 pounds gained.  Honestly, I don't think that number is real because I'm so bloated that my wedding rings are tight and they're usually loose.  I had a veggie lunch with soy sauce at a restaurant yesterday and I think I had too much salt.  As far as inches go, I'm definitely down.  My "fat" jeans now fit; they were tight before.   My exercise and eating has been good all weekend. What's Next Poor Alfonso, my trainer, just kinda got lost in the shuffle.  I stopped updating him with food emails because I felt like I was bugging him.  He in no way said this, this is entirely my own thought process.  We also have been a bit sporadic about touching base so I'm going to ask him for a regular time that I can be accountable to.  I work better with structure. Tips for You Lean on people during times of stress. My family was there for me and didn't even realize how much it helped me.  It was great to just be part of my familial unit and moving. Shit happens. I'm pondering this one.  Does something as large as a threat to your business or the death of someone close to you justify not working out?  On the one hand, a workout during all the stress would have really helped me process everything.  BUT, I was reeling and actively dealing with a lot of stuff that had to be addressed.  I would never, never fault a client for sitting on the couch with a box of tissues after having a week similar to mine ... but would gently encouraging them to move a little help them feel better or just make them feel worse?  For me it helped; for someone else maybe it wouldn't. Exercise makes you feel better. We all know this, but it's good to have a reminder now and again.  Exercise boosts our mood, helps us with cognitive thinking (problem solving), and keeps our body humming.  Sometimes when you want to do exercise the least is when you need it the most.  It's always the first five minutes that are the hardest.  Just get off your bum, slip on the sneakers, and force yourself out the door.  You'll be so glad you did later. So I feel like I've pretty much lost the "fitness role model" myth if any of you thought I had it.  ;-)   This has not been the stellar start I was hoping for.  I am back on track and hopefully next week will be a LOT better. Cheers, Lisa

About Lisa Johnson

Lisa Johnson here. I've been a personal trainer since 1997, a Pilates instructor since 1998 and the owner of Modern Pilates since 1999. I'm hoping to give you some good ideas to get or stay in shape with a healthy dose of humor and reality. Thanks for joining me.

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14 Responses to Fitness Pro: Week 2 of Back In Shape

  1. Kris @Krazy_kris June 20, 2011 at 10:09 am #

    Oh gosh! So sorry for your loss and stuff and, and, and…

    It’s amazing isn’t it? How we KNOW that exercise makes us feel better and we still resist?

    It’s not like the jury is out. This simple fact has been proven to us over and over…

    Yet ~

    Happy to report I’ve been doing quite well with “doing something every day” and have EVEN been sweating a bit. Got back in the pool (I’m totally counting 30 minutes of flailing), got back into Sonjia’s cross fit class and even squeezed in a private. WOOOT!

  2. Julie June 20, 2011 at 10:43 am #

    Lisa –

    While I follow your blog, I rarely comment. First may I offer my condolences on the loss of your friend. Death, especially when sudden, is so hard for those left behind.

    Second, I meant to post when you first wrote the piece about “when the trainer is out of shape”. I will try to keep this brief, but brief is not one of my fortes!

    I received an undergraduate degree in Exercise Science, Specialization in Wellness a long time ago. Over the last 20 years I have stayed current on certs and played around int he field. For the most part I have always worked out. In 2005, my husband and I worked with a fitness coach and got in the best shape of our lives. I know how to do it, I just need the accountability sometimes. Since then, I have gone up and down, been injured, had a second child who is very challenging and not worked out for the last 18 months. I am MUSHY and none of my clothes fit.

    How does this relate to your post – you are one step ahead of me! I have never taken my expertise to the next level. I have my degree, a NASM certification, took the TRX certification when it first came out, studied and worked under a well known in our industry and so on. So why am I not doing anything? I have no self confidence! I always think I do not know enough and now I am out of shape to boot!

    Today I go back to the gym. I a tired and tired of being flabby. I “know” I feel better when I eat well and exercise (for me they go hand in hand. I sleep better, am less stressed and get all the perks associated with working out. I will be flying solo as I don’t have the $$ to work with anyone.

    This is a long winded way of me saying “Thank you for your post, candor and willingness to share your journey.” I am joining you and look forward to both of us getting back in shape!

  3. Lisa Johnson June 20, 2011 at 10:43 am #

    Kris, I know and if I was a client it’s not like I’d say, “well just go exercise and you’ll feel better!” grief and stress get handled differently by everyone and even though we know exercise will help us, who wants to really challenge someone by saying that when they’re struggling?

    Congrats to you and all your changes. Sounds like a lot of fun. :-)


  4. Lisa Johnson June 20, 2011 at 10:57 am #

    Julie, wow, thank *you* for your honestly and candor. I guarantee you, you know enough … let me know how you do. Maybe we can be virtual workout buddies. :-)


  5. Susan Giurleo June 20, 2011 at 11:10 am #

    Grief is a delicate thing. Our bodies and brains do need time to process, slow down, regroup. Sometimes pushing through acting ‘as if’ everything is normal isn’t the best way to go.

    Lisa, nothing you did or didn’t do during this time is ‘right’ or ‘wrong,’ it’s what you needed to do.

    When you were ready you got back out, exercised in ways that felt good and got back on track at your own pace.

    We need to remember that fitness and weight loss isn’t an end goal, but a process that will ebb and flow. Putting too much pressure on ourselves when we are under stress actually can make us feel bad and give up, rather than just accepting that there are going to be bumps on the way that are normal and expected.

  6. Lisa Johnson June 20, 2011 at 11:16 am #

    Very well put Susan, thanks :-) L–

  7. Staci June 20, 2011 at 1:27 pm #

    I said it before and I’ll say it again … your honesty is what makes you REAL and no one could ever fault you for being real. I mean, who in the world can blame you for not working out (as much) given the week you had? No one.

    I do hope this is a better week for you, on all fronts.

  8. Lisa Johnson June 20, 2011 at 2:09 pm #

    Staci thanks a lot and me too! (I hope the week is better …) L–

  9. TraceyJoy June 21, 2011 at 11:26 am #

    my goodness Lisa {{{{hugs}}}} I’m deeply grieved that you lost someone close to you. That is always a tough one to handle. Then the business itself hit this major bump, glad it was able to come back from both traumatic events. The human body is amazing. Your body didn’t need to expend any more energy at that moment because it was given a shock. It needed to recuperate form the devastating blow. You are on a journey, they are not always smooth sailing. You are going to have the ups and downs, knocks and blows and days when you just don’t feel like it. That’s OK. The point is you DO get up. When it was time and your body was ready to cope, accept/handle the events it did and you were able to enjoy a nice weekend w/your family. We all need someone to hold on to to be our support at our time of need, I’m glad you mentioned that. It’s all OK dear. You’re gonna make it = )

  10. Lisa Johnson June 21, 2011 at 2:44 pm #

    gosh Tracey thanks, such a great thing to read :-)

  11. Tara Burner June 21, 2011 at 10:58 pm #

    here’s to you…and sorry for your loss :(
    and ironically as I was reading this I “should have” been on my bike, yet dealt with some major drama and am still dealing with some serious financial issues and just did not ‘feel’ like my normal bike ride…and Kris even knows usually during fitblog and other twitter parties i’m on bike for 60-90 minutes, I’ve done sweaty vlogs showing this and yet tonite, here I am doing ‘nothing’ but gettin ready to crawl into bed about 2 hours earlier than normal…
    so Lisa, I sooooooo can relate and tomorrow I’ll be back on track….but for now I’m calling it a night and know that I’ll push harder tomorrow…and sure you’ll get through the remainder of the week w/flying colors too.

  12. Lisa Johnson June 22, 2011 at 7:22 am #

    Thanks Tara, how many tough weeks like this can you have right? (don’t answer that …) L–

  13. Tara Burner June 23, 2011 at 1:33 pm #

    LOL I tried not to answer the how many tough weeks but this week has blown by me again…and has been rougher than the week before…thus the reason I missed fitstudio last night…and missed 2 bike rides this week :(
    compliments of son’s preg. girlfriend being in car accident, my dad rushed to dr. this morning w/issues (but is doing ok now), and financial issues..this week is a blur and not one I’m proud of physically :(
    tonite I have prior obligations so unless I’m on my bike around 11 pm there wont be a ride today either.
    Why couldn’t I have won the lottery last night?
    enough of the excuses….I WILL get on track! :)

  14. Lisa Johnson June 23, 2011 at 3:26 pm #

    Wow Tara that IS a rough week … just take a big ol’ deep breath and literally get back on the bike, as soon as you can … tomorrow is definitely soon enough. L–

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