Sometimes we face adversity and shine and sometimes we face adversity and wobble. For me, this past week I think I managed to shine for others but wobble for myself.
A couple of really big things happened; a client died on Monday, sudden, unexpected, and took everyone by surprise. The instructors that she worked with were reeling, my studio manager was reeling, and I was blown back pretty hard too. She had been with us for years, I trained her while I was pregnant and my son is nine now. That’s how long she’s been with us.
I was talking to a lot of people, keeping tabs on my staff and making sure everyone was okay. But we weren’t okay, we were all grieving, but we were trying. I feel like the Mama Hen with my staff and it broke my heart to watch them struggle.
So I didn’t really work out much.
Then, after a couple of days, things seemed a little better. I had been doing a lot of walking even though I wasn’t “working out” and felt okay, all things considered. But then my software program for the studio, the one I’ve been using for years and years, stopped working. The company was being cyber-attacked and things slowed to a crawl. We couldn’t take credit cards; I literally couldn’t accept money for services for my studio. As I write this, everything is back to normal and we should be able to accept payments again, but I was scrambling to put a secondary payment plan in place so that I could continue to run my business. These cyber-hackers have left hundreds of studio owners scrambling to keep our businesses afloat and there was a lot of commiseration on Facebook as we reached out to each other to find solutions.
And money issues really stress me out and I eat.
Kindness from Strangers and My Family
The Pilates studio owners reaching out to each other was pretty amazing. We cracked jokes, swapped ideas, griped and knew we had sympathetic eyes reading our comments. It helped a lot. My husband suggested SquareUp.com as a credit card service and I checked into them and they will work well as a back-up system.
On Saturday, my son asked if we could all go running. We did a quick two mile loop around a local reservoir and all felt a lot better. Sunday, Father’s Day, my husband wanted to go kayaking and we did a spirited (that means windy!) route along the Esplanade in Boston, gliding between sail boats and power boats and enjoying the quiet of the lagoon near the Hatch Shell. It was pretty awesome.
I am actually back to my starting weight with 3 pounds gained. Honestly, I don’t think that number is real because I’m so bloated that my wedding rings are tight and they’re usually loose. I had a veggie lunch with soy sauce at a restaurant yesterday and I think I had too much salt. As far as inches go, I’m definitely down. My “fat” jeans now fit; they were tight before. My exercise and eating has been good all weekend.
Poor Alfonso, my trainer, just kinda got lost in the shuffle. I stopped updating him with food emails because I felt like I was bugging him. He in no way said this, this is entirely my own thought process. We also have been a bit sporadic about touching base so I’m going to ask him for a regular time that I can be accountable to. I work better with structure.
Tips for You
Lean on people during times of stress. My family was there for me and didn’t even realize how much it helped me. It was great to just be part of my familial unit and moving.
Shit happens. I’m pondering this one. Does something as large as a threat to your business or the death of someone close to you justify not working out? On the one hand, a workout during all the stress would have really helped me process everything. BUT, I was reeling and actively dealing with a lot of stuff that had to be addressed. I would never, never fault a client for sitting on the couch with a box of tissues after having a week similar to mine … but would gently encouraging them to move a little help them feel better or just make them feel worse? For me it helped; for someone else maybe it wouldn’t.
Exercise makes you feel better. We all know this, but it’s good to have a reminder now and again. Exercise boosts our mood, helps us with cognitive thinking (problem solving), and keeps our body humming. Sometimes when you want to do exercise the least is when you need it the most. It’s always the first five minutes that are the hardest. Just get off your bum, slip on the sneakers, and force yourself out the door. You’ll be so glad you did later.
So I feel like I’ve pretty much lost the “fitness role model” myth if any of you thought I had it. ;-) This has not been the stellar start I was hoping for. I am back on track and hopefully next week will be a LOT better.